The other day we were in the local supermarket, doing a routine shop in what passes for a fun day out nowadays. I gave Bella a carton of soup to hold, because the outstretched arm of demand was reaching for it. I thought to myself “how helpful of her, carrying that when my hands are full”. Idiot. Then we had to pay, so I had to remove said carton from her grasp. THE. TANTRUM. THE. TEARS. THE. SCREAMING. This incident is now known as “Soup-Gate”. With the terrible twos looming on the horizon like a malevolent thunderhead, Bella is warming us up with an array of tantrums. These come on like tropical storms. They appear from nowhere at a moment’s notice, leave a path of devastation and lobbed toys in their wake, and then are gone as fast as they arrived. Here are six of the classic toddler-diva tantrums:
The “exit” tantrum
When you need to leave the playground/softplay/park/shopping centre (insert scene of japes), because they have been on the slide 100,000 times and it’s gone dark and you feel like time has actually stopped. So you pick up your toddler diva with hope in your eyes, praying that this time, this time, you will get away with it. No. Never. Cue epic tantrum as you wrestle your FURY-FILLED, biting banshee into the pram.
The “strapping in the pram” tantrum
Similar to the exit tantrum, but this one can occur whenever the toddler-diva feels like it (which is most of the time). They generally want to walk by themselves and do not appreciate having their freedom curtailed. So putting them into the pram becomes quite the feat, akin to an obstacle course. You frantically BUCKLE, BUCKLE whilst you toddler turns into a rampaging bronco, all arching of the back, bucking and ramrod legs. A parental double act is recommended here.
The “how dare you give me beans again” tantrum
So yesterday beans were fine. Yesterday beans were delicious. Yesterday there were not enough beans in the world. Today they cause abject hysteria. Today they are thrown back in your face with all the force of jet propulsion. This is one of the messiest of all the tantrums, think one sided food fight. You end up peeling dried bean-juice off the walls a week later.
The “Changing Mat” tantrum
The toddler diva obviously does not tolerate being sat in shit for long (and very sensible too). But if one should have the temerity to try and CHANGE the soiled nappy then this can often cause one of the most ferocious of squalls. In fact the mere sight of the changing table seems to turn Bella into Baby Jekyll.
The “other child has the thing that I wasn’t interested in until they picked it up” tantrum
Bella is generally pretty good at “sharing” (I know this is not really sharing, it’s more she has no longer any interest in the thing she has given away), but the other day we were at soft play and there were two IDENTICAL rubber rocking creatures (it definitely wasn’t a horse) next to each other. Both her and a boy toddler wanted the same one. Natch. Coordinated tantrums ensued, like an orchestra of angst.
The “Who the f**k knows” tantrum
It could be because you put the dolly in the buggy the wrong way (trick question, there is no right way), it could be because you put the toy cow next to the toy sheep (WTF), or it could be because you TOOK A SOCK OFF (call yourself a mother). There is no point trying to guess the cause, just get into the storm shelter and wait this one out.