Yesterday I was walking Bella to nursery and this guy staggered up to me, at least three sheets to the wind if not more, and slurred in what he thought was an alluring manner “woooah you still got it, sexy mamma”. Being eminently British I of course thanked him whilst simultaneously speeding away trying desperately not to make eye contact. Now impaired judgement aside (it was circa 8am, I had not a stich of make up on and was sporting basically my outdoor PJs), I was actually a bit offended by the “STILL”. Why is it when you become a mum that people think you lose “it”, whatever “it” is. To be honest I am not ever sure I had it. When I was younger I had precisely NO game. I was always the cannon fodder on the night out; the meat in the room. I towered awkwardly over any given dance floor at a statuesque 6ft whilst my fitter and more confident mates pulled hotties left right and centre. But say I did have the elusive “it”, why would I lose it by virtue of pushing a baby out of my vagina?
I have never been super confident in how I look, I have always had a bit of a gunt (“the pouch”) and because I was so tall when I was younger my posture is appalling, I basically walk around at half mast. But I actually feel more assured in myself since I had Bella, because if my body can do THAT, if it can birth a 7 lb beauty, and birth her backwards no less, then who cares what it looks like. And it has also made me more confident with fashion. Before Bella (BB) I was over-fond of the Cos-style smock, aka the minimal marquee. But now I am more open to trying different things, as my body changed so much over pregnancy and post birth that I couldn’t stick to what I knew. So here are my favourite five mum fashion faves, my MUM-SSENTIALS (not a thing?)
Ahhh dungarees. Since being pregnant I have invested in MANY a dungaree. My wardrobe is basically that of a 90s children’s TV presenter. I look like Pat Sharpe 90% of the time. And my boyfriend hates them, ‘handyman’ or ‘decorator’ not being a look that lights his fire. In fact they are total passion killers (if having a 15 month old baby wasn’t enough to dampen ones ardour). But they are also a breastfeeding mother’s best friend, with the benefit of super easy access. If only they had a pee flap I would actually never take them off.
Now I love me an animal print. I used to be scared of wearing it, haunted as I was by the ghosts of Pat Butcher and Sporty Spice. But not only have animal prints become the new neutral over the last year, they also hide a multitude of baby-related sins. Uncontrollable boob leakage? Milky baby vomit? Mucus trails? Calpol-tini accident? Mucky avocado hand prints? Your clothes used as a crayon canvas? No worries, an on-trend leopard print hides everything.
Midi-skirt and jumper combo
I never used to be a fan of the midi-skirt as I never knew where to do them up – under the waist and I looked like a beer-bellied drag queen and above the waist I looked like Simon Cowell. However stick a jumper over the top and no one can spot this waistline CONUNDRUM. And you can pick from Nordic fisherman knit or 90’s slogan sweater depending on your mood (“girl about fjord” or “girl about Lino”). Sorted.
Sequins and/or glitter
It’s not about showing tits or leg any more, it’s about accessorising the bejesus out of everything with sequins and/or glitter. It has the added benefit that Bella LOVES the sparkly stuff, and it can distract her for at least a minute (worth every second). So if it looks like Unicorn Jizz, I am in.
My fashion hiking boots: aka my “fiking” boots
I have literally worn these every day since I bought them last year. Not only do they work with any outfit, they are also essential for avoiding catching trench foot whilst trudging the pram round Tooting Common in the pissing rain.